When speaking with people, I focus on positive wording. Working under the assumption that we are all trying to move forward, and we are all trying to do our best in the moment, be gentle with your words. Strong negative words will only cause a strong negative response, and nothing will be accomplished!
That’s Just Drama
It is important to take a step back every now and again and look at a situation. This is my “spider on the wall” approach. If you were a spider on the wall looking down on the situation, what would you observe? How much of the arguing and storytelling is drama that’s not worthy of too much of one’s time and energy? What is the real issue that needs to be addressed?
It is easier to see once the drama is taken away. It usually leaves a much simpler picture and something more straightforward to deal with.
Being Selfish And Being Centred In Oneself
There is a great difference in these two concepts, and a very different energy/ feeling associated with each. Being centred in oneself is being truthful to oneself, acknowledging one’s beliefs and desires, and following through on obtaining/achieving them. Seems basic enough: you know who you are, what you want, and you’re going for it.
The point at which being centred on yourself and being selfish occurs when going for it has negative effects on those around you. Are your actions and words intentionally hurting others? Perhaps an example will help. You have a passion for music and have a desire to listen to it at 2:00 am. If this is what you truly want to do, then go for it, but a selfish individual would blast the stereo without any concern about how this will affect others within earshot. A more reasonable solution would be to put on those headphones.
The desire to hear the music is satisfied, and there are no negative effects to those around you. Truly just be aware of the consequences of your action (karma). If we could all be just a bit more courteous to each other… what an impact that would have.